Getting Over a Breakup: Stages, Feelings and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself
Jacqueline Klemke · 7 min read
A breakup often shakes more than the relationship itself: daily routines, future plans, friendships and sometimes your self-image. Whether you were left or chose to leave, grief, anger and relief can take turns. That is normal.
The typical stages
Many people first experience shock and denial, then strong feelings such as anger, pain or guilt. Later comes a phase of reorientation in which you begin to shape your life anew.
These stages rarely run in a straight line. Setbacks are part of it and don't mean you are "not coping".
What helps day to day
Routines provide stability: sleep, movement, regular meals. Talk to people you trust. Consciously reduce social-media contact if it keeps pulling you back.
Write down what you want to take with you from the relationship – and what you don't.
When children are involved
As parents you remain a team even when the partnership ends. Clear agreements, reliable handovers and not criticising each other in front of the children relieve everyone.
How systemic coaching supports you
In coaching we sort through feelings and thoughts, strengthen your resources and turn your focus forward step by step – at your pace. If you feel persistently hopeless, TelefonSeelsorge is available 24/7 in Germany on 0800 111 0 111.
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