Understanding Life Transitions: Why Change Challenges Us So Deeply
Jacqueline Klemke · 6 min read
Every life is a sequence of transitions. Some we choose deliberately, others simply happen to us. What they share: the old no longer carries us, and the new is not yet familiar. It is precisely in this in-between space that uncertainty arises – along with real opportunities for growth.
The three phases of a transition
The psychologist William Bridges describes transitions in three phases: letting go of the old, a neutral in-between zone, and a new beginning. Many people want to skip the middle phase – yet that is where the real reorientation takes place.
It is normal to feel ambivalent during this time: anticipation and grief, curiosity and fear can exist side by side.
Transitions never affect just one person
From a systemic perspective, every transition also changes the environment around you: when a child moves out, the couple's relationship shifts. When someone is promoted, relationships within the team shift. That is why it is worth looking at the whole system – family, partnership, workplace.
What helps during transitions
A resource orientation: Which transitions have you already navigated, and what helped you back then? That experience is valuable knowledge.
Structure and rituals: conscious farewells and small beginnings provide stability.
Support: a non-judgemental counterpart who listens actively helps you organise your thoughts and find your next steps.
Further reading
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